So although it’s actually day 4 for us here, I’ll just recap on what day 2 was.
The first night A actually slept relatively well- they settle them here for you on the first night and just wake you for breastfeeds if that’s how you’re feeding otherwise they can also give formula. I woke up twice to BF A during the first night which is a far cry from his usual hourly ‘feeds’ from 2am onwards to get to sleep. I BF at 940pm and he went down just a bit over 2 hours. He then needed to be resettled a number of times until his next feed. Amazingly after breastfeeding at 420am he slept through til 820am without a peep!
That’s the sheet that you and the nurses fill out throughout the duration of your stay to inform you on how they go at sleeping and what techniques worked for resettling and how many times they had to be resettled.
As it was the second day- I got to try my hand at resettling him on my own with nurses observing me and giving advise as to what I should try or when I should go in if he’s crying or when when I should leave the room after a settling attempt.
The babies are allowed ‘to cry’ and most of the time you ignore what they refer to here as low level grizzling which sound like moans and groans.
Here they settle them with techniques such as patting, head strokes, torso wrap, side tuck, hands on baby, mattress pat, bottom pat. They also encourage the use of a comfort toy which we slept with in the week leading up to sleep school so it smelt like me (I also squirted some BF milk in there). It’s amazing how quickly the bubs take to their comfort toy by smelling it, rubbing their face in it and just fiddling with it in their hands while they try to sleep.
There were also occasions today where I had to get A out of the cot to give him a break from trying to sleep- this usually occurre after about 40 minutes of him trying to sleep and us trying to help him by going into the rooms. This usually meant that we could get him out, have a cuddle and a bit of quiet play and then try again in about 30-40 minutes. This worked for us twice with A on our second day!
The nurses here are a wealth of knowledge and while some do vary in their approach and advise- it’s helpful because there isn’t a one size fits all formula to baby sleeping or resettling and what might have worked for the earlier sleep may not necesarily work for the next sleep. But you do get an idea from the form what your baby responds to.
Resettling here as advise starts slowly and you build up to using the techniques. For example you could go in, give him his slee cue which for us was the line ‘it’s time for bed A’ and then re tuck your baby into his sheet. The next settle could be patting him for a couple of minutes. There’s also music and then there’s wrapping them. Wrapping them seems to be helpful and is considered the big guns coz the babies seem to feel like it’s similar to being held! So this worked for us with A coz he’s such a squirmy little thing.
A had a BF at 655pm and slept at 730pm on day 2 night. His next feed was then at 1040 and the next one not til 5am (which was actually 4 am due to daylight saving). From 5am he then slept again til 9am which brings us to day 3.
He had a number of resettles from the night nurse on night 2 but a lot less than his first night and that 4 hour stretch of sleep during the morning sleep was something he hadn’t done since he was pretty much born!
So all in all that’s already been a Big improvement for us.